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Love Is…

Posted in Raspberry Rants! with tags , on March 19, 2014 by O.S-Hughes

Love is -C.S. Lewis


I love this Carton so much and after reblogging the cartoon from  Henrietta’s Musing’s , I was not satisfied, so I decided to google Zen Pencils to find out more.

Guess what I found  the cartoon was inspired by a great man I paid tribute to in my post

{ which in summary, talks about ‘time’ and how we spend the time that we’ve been given.} Its non other than  C.S. LEWIS.

To Love at all is to be Vunerable.

Many of us hate to exhibt weakness or put in plain naij speak, we hate for anyone to find our mumu button because there’s every chance they’ll misuse it and every other chance they’ll be our BEST yet.
I love this cartoon mostly because it talks about the Heart and boy do I have a few things to say about a Heart I know or atleast I think I do.
I really loved watching his most famous work” The Chronicles of Narnia” as a child, like I could not wait for four o’çlock because that was when NTA started broadcasting programmes for Children.  Since I’ve gotten older I told myself I would take out time and dig deeper. Read more . Read the screwtape letters. I’m still slacking.

From ZEN Pencils

C.S. Lewis (1898-1963) was an Irish author most famous for the Chronicles of Narnia series. He was also a noted poet, critic and served as professor of English Literature at Oxford for 29 years. An atheist as a young man, Lewis would later  find his faith and go on to become one of the most important Christian authors of the 20th Century. I loved the Narnia books as a child and it’s interesting to find out now that the plot and characters were inspired by the Bible. 

The full version of this quote, taken from Lewis’s book, The Four Loves, reads:

“To love at all is to be vulnerable.  Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless — it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside of Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”

Henrietta's Musing's

Love Is...

Browsing the web being a blog whore (lol) and saw this on quickmeme.. Quite apt.

I can relate to this totally but on the bright side, it only gets better but when your heart is broken and you get told ‘it will get better’, it sounds like nonsense…

Thankful for love

Oh 3 years on wordpress already! I love you wordpress!!!

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“Mo Ni Fe Re”

Posted in Raspberry Rants! with tags , , , , on February 14, 2014 by O.S-Hughes


‘Happy Valentine’s Day!!! My Good people! and Happy New year to you too, I hope your year is up to a beautiful start.

 I  certainly have perfected the art of retreating into my shell and not sharing my many thoughts with you.

I’m hoping that this year will be different and I will no longer wear my “introvertedness” as a quilt. 

I do have one story I’ll share with you before the first quarter is over.Its a story about a Heart I know or at least I think know.

The best way to summarise it would be to say something along the lines of ” The Fine Art of Leaping ” Or This Heart Leaped! ” I haven’t decided which accurately describes it. I’m still tinkering with the idea of making it a two or three-part post.

Now that’s’ out of the way, I read  the Sonnet below  earlier on today and I believe it will be unkind of me, if I fail to share it with you. It made me smile, and giggle.  Yes I am a softie and I absolutely Love LOVE!!!


Before you start reading Chiedu’s Sonnet, I just have to say I have a thing for  Love expressed in its pure and most  indigenous form. Think of the words from Tosin Martin’s “Olo Mi ” ,  Dipo’s  “Be Your Man”  or Asa’s  “Bamidele”, I’ve always believed that expressing emotions indigenously  (especially Yoruba)  carries more weight.  I also have a thing for Pomegranates, I don’t know what it with this fruit but it makes me happy…ok bye.


 “Mo Ni Fe Re”   Words by Chiedu Ifeozo

The phone rings and its you

My heart sings, this is true

But I act like it doesn’t mean a thing

Like your voice isn’t my medicine

E karo

 I can’t wait to see your face

And feel the lines on your palm

Kiss your smile

Chill for a while


Mo ni fe re

Words simply cant explain

You get me, such beauty in simplicity

You hold me up, when I’m uncertain

You’re there, no matter how far away


Jo soro die die


I want to savor every second

The weight of every word

The depth of every emotion

This feeling,


Don’t go away again,

please wait,

I hate missing you this way

I keep counting down the days


Mo wa nibi yi

O wa ni be

I wake up to your call

I only wish you were here

But your voice rescues me

And I know it’ll be a good day


O se


Even when I make mistakes

You see the sun behind the eclipse

And for that I’ll always be thankful

Your love for me is beautiful


O dara pupo

What’s cool is even with everything

The one thing I cant live without is you

Everyday you make me feel like a winner

Its clear, you only make me better


Oluwa ti fun mi layo, Ayo mi tun de

Everyday I thank God I found you


Ma ri e laipe

Mo ni fe re

Six Reasons I’m Single!

Posted in Raspberry Rants! with tags on October 24, 2012 by O.S-Hughes

1. I live far away: From the cool areas where the upwardly mobile single guys are located. You know how it is when a guy loves you ridiculously, he would be ready to brave the okada menace and fight for petrol just so he can drive to your hood to see you? Yeah, that excitement and love is inversely proportional to the distance of your geographical location from, say, VI.

2. I attend an orthodox church: “Girlfriend, the real godly men are in the hip churches, the non-denominational ones where they sing disco praise and the pastor rocks denim. In the orthodox churches you only find straight-laced, unexposed guys, that are not on the same level as you.”

3. I don’t hit the clubs on the regular: Of course, the only place a girl can find a decent young man is in a smokey, booze-laced environment, where she has to keep hitting hands off her ‘nice ass’, and screaming to hold a conversation amidst the obnoxious music. No, wait, I know what it is! The only way to show that you can be fun is to hit the club; Simple things like karaoke, lounge-chilling, salsa, moon-watching/star-gazing and movies, are NOT fun.

4. I am comfortable/ I don’t look like I have needs: “Maybe you shouldn’t have bought a car”. “Maybe you should switch to a more feminine job”. “Maybe you shouldn’t buy yourself nice stuff”. “A man will not choose a girl that doesn’t show that she needs him to complete her. If she’s well-to-do, she’s already playing the man role”.

5. I am celibate: “Look, the earlier you understand this, the better: No one wants to buy anything that they can’t sample first”.

6. I am too fat: It’s the woman’s business to prepare herself to be discovered by the man. So, whether she likes it or not, she must be skinny and shapely. She must wear clothes that project her assets and make herself attractive and worth discovering. She should also not be picky; she must accept what comes her way. There are too many single women crying to be found and married, she must thank God for being found and accept her fate. He may be fat and unattractive, she must deal with it.

Artwork  ( i-refuse-to-be-invisible)  by Njideka Akunyili []

Love, according to a Yoruba proverb…

Posted in Raspberry Rants! with tags , , on September 28, 2012 by O.S-Hughes

 the one thing that’s invisible on the cups in the picture is the inscription

“Why can’t you see it”

I was doing jovial ‘ofofo’ (a.k.a amebo, tatafo, aproko) with my bosses sometime last week, when one of them said the following proverb:

“Eni ti won ba n mu’yawo wa ba o ki n na ga”.

It wasn’t until a few days after that I realized that somehow, God has made him say that proverb for my benefit.

Literally, it means – “The person for whom a wife is being brought doesn’t stretch his neck [anxiously looking to see when she arrives]”. And the ‘deep’ meaning is that Patience is a Virtue.

Let me explain why this is important. Recently, I’ve been spending a lot of emotional energy on a certain fellow who ‘fits me perfectly’ (in my own eyes). I haven’t fallen in love with him, since love is a decisive choice; but I know I won’t have a problem with that if it came to it. So, being the go-getter that I am, I’d been dropping all the subtle hints and basically letting him know I was ‘feeling his Persona ‘ without really saying it. The guy has been playing hard to get sha. He’d do all these pretty nice things for/to me, and then switch to stonecold mode like nothing dey dia. Then, he’d decide not to even talk to me at all. A girl can take a hint now – ‘He’s Just Not That Into Me’.

So, I’d been sulking about his fronting for a bit, then I appropriated my oga’s proverb and felt a lot better. They say ‘if you love sometimes you have to let go, but if it comes back then it means so much more’. Love is a pretty strong word to use for now, but you get my drift sha.

Anywho, the moral lesson of my gist is that I know for sure that my husband go come, that God is gonna come and give him to me. So, I don’t need to be stretching neck. Shikena. I’ll just keeping working to make myself a Proverbs 31 woman.

Happy Holidays y’all. (Did another 10km today. I’m on fire! Lol). Have a blessed weekend!

UPDATE: January 11, 2013 at 10:41 am

O.S-Hughes : I just reread this post by Isha and two things come to mind.

Everything Good Will Come by Sefi Atta.

My favourite scripture, which I believe is self explanatory Habakkuk 2:3.

For the vision is yet for an appointed time;
But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie.
Though it tarries, wait for it;
Because it will surely come,
It will not tarry.

The Needful Revisited…

Posted in Raspberry Rants! on January 23, 2012 by O.S-Hughes

It seems like Sameerah has caught “the needful” bug too.. yesterday she sent me a bb message with a link saying here’s an article worth reading. Me being me always looking to get my interest piqued I clicked on the link but it didn’t open.                                                                                                                                                                                Somehow she knew I hadn’t read it and this morning I woke up to a message from her saying  “read it dammit, its worth your while”. At this point I knew it was important  as Sameerah doesn’t push me unless its urgent.                                                                                                                                                                                                          Sameerah this your link is not opening O, what is this article about?                                                                                                                                                                                                she replies you have to read it to understand,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  ahn ahn can’t you give me a synopsis?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Boo just READ IT!

I  fiddled with my phone and it refused to open this seemingly all important link.  So I asked for the name of the article, goggled it and there  it was..Its title put me in a funny place…I said to myself see what poetic license has done O.. hi-an! First thing that caught my eye as I reached the site were the number of comments (200) because my training  lets me understand that a  Media/PR  practitioner’s job is only done when what you say sparks further debate &  positive action.. An unnerving but absolutely thought provoking article… read here after reading it, I can understand why she wanted me to read it so badly, this is a summary of what our Sociology Professors  tried to teach us.  However they failed to convey it in a manner that hit home…sometimes we need rude awakenings to push us out of our comfort zones.

Let us dare to dream….

and if we must dream. DREAM BIG!!

Show up..

Start …

Start small &  don’t despise humble beginnings.

Follow your dreams …

Mille Bisous,


Fight the Flab!

Posted in Raspberry Rants! with tags , on January 23, 2012 by O.S-Hughes


Today I’m back on my doing the needful tirade. I realize now that the reason we don’t  get results from the things we once were dedicated to is because we stopped before we cultivated The Habit of Consistency.. Eri my best friend told me about a classmate of ours she ran into at Ice Cream Factory and how she had to conceal her surprise!. The  lady in question was a size six  in high school and now she is a size 22.   As a result of this Eri and myself have decided to take a stand and Fight The Flab.  Fighting the flab is essentially a way of ensuring that we do not let ourselves go, as we know only too well how easy it is to get comfortable with flab .  To help us along the way I chatted to Fifi  another friend whose transformation blew me away.. She went from looking like the younger sister of Precious to the twin sister of Eva Longoria..

Fifi’s Secrets!

” The first thing is not to think of your actual weight. Just think about your fitness

The fitter you get, the better you feel, then the slimmer you look

I concentrate on how clothes fit me. I don’t actually weigh myself. I’m probably like below 55 but that’s not important.

Find an exercise activity you enjoy doing,

its important that you stay consistent. Losing weight wouldn’t be instant as this isn’t magic. Its a gradual process.

Watch what  you eat!

Eat Lots of protein, healthy carbs, veggies

Drink water, not soft drinks or juice & little alcohol

Yes you read correctly No Juice!!!!

Juice = sugar and unwanted calories

No caffeine unless you really need it 

Stay far away from fried foods , don’t even touch it with a six foot pole. Grill / bake or boil everything.

I like to look good and feel good so I don’t mind working out and not eating junk food.It all pays off in the end.

I have a flat stomach, a faint 4 pac and tone everywhere. It’s worth it!” 

                                                                                                                                                   Lots of  love


Examples of protein & healthy carbs are chicken, turkey, salmon, fish generally, no red meat  so no beef, oats, potatoes (not chips), I’m not a fan of rice or any type of pasta so I stuck to roast or boiled potatoes.. I’ve been told sweet potatoes are much more filling than their irish counterpart and they also contain healthy nutrients. Your Portion of carbs should not be bigger than your fist.

At the end of the day, It’s all about self-discipline & self-motivation. You have to want it for you. Its the only way you’ll follow through.

In the spirit of doing the needful I have found a blog that can help inspire our exercise sessions take a look here . Rather than snack on the delicious looking  raspberry cookies in my goodie box. I’m opting for watermelon  and pawpaw with a generous squeeze of lemon…

Have a fruitful week,

Mille Bisous


The Needful

Posted in Raspberry Rants! on January 16, 2012 by O.S-Hughes

The other day Sehindemi & I were talking.
I could tell he was really upset and I knew it had to do with something I said or did that may have been misinterpreted. I couldn’t understand why he wouldn’t just say what was on his mind. I confronted him and he didn’t respond & I got mildly irritated and I said you are gonna get a wife one day, You can’t sit in one corner and be brooding you are gonna have to communicate. He said he will wait till she comes along before he learns.
I was stunned!
Yes I’ve read the book “Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus” which alludes to the fact that we are wired differently. Men don’t necessarily like to talk about a problem till they have a solution and women will rather purge till they arrive at a solution but STILL! What ever happened to dialogue??
I told him this, why do u wanna learn on the job???
When you can have your family/friends [people who would still love you even after u make them livid] help you learn and eventually communicating will become second nature..

Afterwards You could say I had an ‘Ah ha moment’
How many of us are ‘waiting till something happens’ before we Man-up and do the needful?
By the way this is not one of those New Year Resolution talks..
I can think of so many things that I have been waiting to accomplish.
Take writing for example, we started this blog to help horn my writing skills and have fun doing it the latent function is to create a readership like Rukky’s Frocks…
Every time the desire to write stirs I stop myself before I even begin telling myself ah without interesting content you don’t have a story O!
Today I remembered a quote from someone and it struck a chord..
“Life is 80percent showing up”
So today here I am reporting for duty flaws & all..
off I go to dust the cobwebs from my “Letters to a young writer” by Teju Cole


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